Kid of a travelling father

When Joy was younger, I didn’t really know if she missed her father when he was away. Each time we get on FaceTime, she would appear to be more interested in something else, only occasionally more engaged with talking (or gesturing) to him.

Things are different now, I am pretty sure that she misses him badly (we all do). She would ask to hold the phone on her own and wait with pursed lips while the connection is made:

When connected, she would talk to him, show him things and ask him where he was. She smiles a lot more to him and plays with him as if they are not apart.

When people we know ask “Where is your Daddy?” she would say “Daddy 去印尼做工” (“Daddy went to work in Indonesia”) or “Daddy 去中国做工” (“Daddy went to work in China”), depending on where she remembered he was going at that time. She’d say either one quietly, with just a tinge of sadness that always breaks my heart.

I’m not really sure if it’s helping, but I’ve decided to talk to her about how she feels whenever he is away. Most of the time, my little trooper is still cheerful and very loving when she talks about her father being away. It makes me want to hug her tighter and love her even more than I already do.

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21 Replies to “Kid of a travelling father”

  1. Aww, poor baby. I’m very lucky that my husband doesn’t have to travel for work. But funnily, when we have Skype meetings with oversea family members, the kids are really excited…. for about 2 minutes and then walk off to do their own thing, and kinda satellite around while we (the parents) take turns to chase them/hold bits of conversation!

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      haha the kids have short attention spans don’t they! I’m just glad for technology that makes the separation a little easier to bear.

  2. We have just had three weeks with my husband away. This is the first time he’s been away for work for more than a night or two. So this post reminded me a lot of that.
    Skype is our friend. I can’t imagine life without it.
    Cute pics of them playing!

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      I find that separation of anything more than 3 days gets hard to bear but at least we have technology to stay connected in some way :)

  3. Awww bless. Thank God for technology hey?

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      Haha! thank everything I can thank for technology!

  4. It must be so hard on both of you – and dad for sure! But thank goodness for modern technology hey!

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      I’m kinda used to it but not so sometimes for Joy although she’s been a real trooper most days. Yeah! Thank goodness for technology!

  5. How amazing is technology.

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      Totally. Brings people closer even when we’re apart! (Although the reverse can be true too)

  6. It’s so wonderful she can still at least ‘see’ her day whilst he is away.

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      It puts smiles on her face to be able to see her father and talk to him. I know there are other apps that enable video conferencing but nothing really beats FaceTime for us, so we insisted on getting iPhones for FaceTime.

  7. Awwww… My husband travels a lot of work too, and we use FaceTime and Skype daily so that we can all see each other. Noah always asks for papa and it breaks my heart too. Thank God that we are all able to be in Adelaide now as a family while he’s working here. It would be really tough if we had to be apart for months! How long do your husband’s work trips usually last?

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      Yeah, I always believe in the importance of keeping the family together and connected in one way or another. My hubs travel almost every month for anything ranging from 2 days to 2 weeks. When Joy was very young, he had to be away for back to back trips that added up to about 3 weeks, the hubs missed his little girl like crazy and us him.

  8. At leat she is able to keep in visual contact with her Dad while he is away xx She is still knowing him and having lots of fun by the looks :)

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      Yup, I’m glad for that!! :)

  9. Aww that must make life hard for all involved.
    As others say – thank goodness to modern technology that you can keep in touch!

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      Totally! :)

  10. Aww she’s such a sweetheart! Thank goodness for technology that makes the long distance bearable :)

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

    1. sooddlydreamlike says: Reply

      She is and yes I’m extremely grateful we have the means to stay connected even when apart. :)

  11. It’s amazing how much technology has advance. My own father travels to work very often 20 odd years ago. I can only goondu goondu wait for my father to come home…… Joy Joy is absolutely adorable! I can totally feel the close bond she has with your husband…

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